Problem with dating sites
There was a lot of positive feedback from people interested in non-gender binary people.I call it ‘the menu’ when I open up these apps, ‘Oh, what’s on the menu today? they streamline this process, when you have a specific taste you can go to that.”Fuentes, like every Grindr or Scruff user (including myself), has dozens of stories of mortification, grotesquery and hilarity: he gathers the worst offenders up on a twitter hashtag: #grindrchronicles. I get a lot of men who are tranny chasers or just obsessed with what’s happening with your genitalia.But at the same time I have amazing interactions with other trans men and women.” For Fuentes, a neutral space like the internet is always going to have the best and worst of any community, even the queer one.Grindr’s ‘tribes’ function has been wonderful for users like Fuentes, but now they want more groups included. I feel like it’s treading dangerous territory when we say we need less,” said Fuentes with a laugh.
Some gay apps, like the newer Mister, have not subscribed to the community/tribe model.
Leapolitan responded by saying, “hopefully youll [sic] bite into a poison apple.”In July 2013, gay app Scruff’s newest update included a function that had been a longtime staple for websites like Gay Romeo or Gay.com: the ability to define yourself as any number of ‘communities,’ and also state which ones you sought in a partner.
Grindr introduced the feature themselves in October the same year and called it ‘tribes.’ Among the options for ‘jock’, ‘poz’, ‘leather’ or ‘twink’ are options to identifiy ‘trans’/’transgender’ on Grindr and Scruff respectively.
On Grindr, Fuentes said, there is a “hyper-masculine white worship of men.
So I guess for somebody who doesn’t fit any of these descriptions it’s a bit challenging.” He has previously received messages out of the blue from men saying “What the fuck is wrong with you? ” (to quote Fuentes), but he takes it in his stride. He loves the fact that, like on Grindr, users can identify as transgender. I’m not necessarily transgender but I fit under the umbrella of the queer non-binary.